11/07/04

Head Teacher Marries Pupil A headmaster aged 40 who caused outrage when he dumped his wife for their teenage foster daughter is to marry her.

Born-again Christian Malcolm Hayes, 40, shocked parents at a quiet village school with his affair with former Barnardo's girl Rhoxan Kenward.

What. 

A. 

Fool!

The poor guy is besotted.

The two of them will have nothing in common.

Except an urgent need to have rampant and uninhibited sex all the time.

And what, exactly, is the point of that?

Reports suggest that their relationship started during an IT lesson at school when Malcolm asked Rhoxan to show him her software so that he could check it out for bugs.

And she did!

"Here it is," she said.

And it was at the very instant of her response to his request that he experienced the most amazing spiritual revelations and became a born-again Christian. 

Yet again!

Suddenly, he could see the light once more.

Perhaps life was worth living after all.

The code was absolutely perfect.

Far too perfect to be the work of a mere mortal or the product of some blind evolutionary force.

There was not a bug in sight!

And it was such a complex program.

If ever there was proof that God existed, then this was definitely it.

And having read bits of the Bible sometime in the past he knew exactly what he had to do in order to carry out God's will.

And he has been attempting to do this most enthusiastically ever since!

Go forth and multiply, it said.

...

Well, of course, I hope that they both live happily ever after.

But, quite frankly, the odds seem stacked against them somewhat.

Still. You never know.

But (and I can feel a pontification welling up inside me) there is surely no legitimate moral reason why two people of widely disparate ages should not be able to love each other and enjoy all the goodies that can come with such a thing.

Their relationship might not quite be the conventional one that we are all supposed to experience, but this does not necessarily make it any less valid, worthwhile, or meaningful.

Indeed, 'romantic' or 'passionate' love is mostly very transient for the majority of people.

And it is often not particularly rewarding - except, perhaps, in a very limited sense.

And, of course, to a large degree, we should all be able to choose our own different pathways in life.

Which reminds me of a very old psychiatrist whom I once knew - an actual student of Alfred Adler, no less! - who when about 75 married a woman of 33!

She cooked, and cleaned, and catered for everything on the domestic front, while he pottered - or, rather, hobbled - around in his study writing articles and seeing the occasional patient.

Now, whether or not they actually had sex together, well, quite frankly, I do not know.

But they were definitely very cuddly with each other in the parental kind of way.

But the thing is this.

The pair of them made no attempt to hide the fact that this relationship (and they were married) was based quite significantly on the fact that he was getting older and weaker - and would soon need to depend increasingly on someone else to look after him - and that she would inherit all his money.

And the pair of them would happily volunteer this information themselves whenever others looked puzzled at their relatively uncommon circumstance.

They felt no shame, and no reason to hide what they were doing.

And, indeed, why should they have done?

And, as regular readers might know, when my old man was 75, he met a woman of 45, and they spent nearly all of their time together (though they never lived together) until his death some six years later.

They were both very happy with each other.

And that was with a 30-year age difference!

In other words, their age difference was actually ten years greater than that in the current case of Michael and Roxhan.

And there is surely much to be said for younger people having close and possibly intimate relationships with much older others - if they feel so inclined.

In fact, they can both learn hell of a lot by doing so.

And, contrary to the man-hating propaganda that emanates perpetually from so many quarters, it is not the case that when older people have relationships with younger people that they are mostly coldly trying to exploit them for sexual purposes.

On the contrary, they are mostly extremely attached to them emotionally, which is why they are able easily to tolerate - or to enjoy - the many differences that often exist between them.

Nevertheless, what, quite frankly, a 40 year old male could possibly find interesting about a 19 year old woman is a complete mystery to me.

LOL!

(Shoot me, somebody.)