Victims of Domestic Violence
I recently noticed that a small number of local councils in the UK were
attempting to make some of their local domestic violence units offer
services to men.
Needless to say, this was being opposed very strongly by women's groups
who kept claiming that services for men were unnecessary because men
rarely suffered serious injury from domestic violence.
But this is just not true.
Men suffer from serious domestic
violence just as often as do women.
True; their serious injuries are often the result of male violence
rather than female violence, but what relevance has this when it comes to
providing services to those who are in need of help and protection?
However, the reason that I am writing this piece is because it seems to
me that people often seem reluctant to believe that men suffer as much
from serious injury as do women when it comes to domestic violence.
My belief is that this happens because their brains automatically think
of 'inter-gender' violence rather than 'domestic' violence when it comes
to talking about domestic violence. And this, of course, is exactly what
the feminists and the women's victims groups want people to think; which
is why they are always at pains to hide the truth about the number of men
who are subjected to domestic violence.
Well, for this piece, let us just focus on the number of people who are
killed as a result of domestic violence.
In the UK, it is said by the UK Home Office that some 35 men are killed
every year as a result of 'domestic violence', whereas about 105 women are
This, argue the women's groups, shows conclusively that women make up
the vast majority of victims of serious 'domestic violence'.
But this is not true, because these numbers relate to inter-gender
violence of a 'domestic' nature, not to domestic violence.
And when one includes those men who were killed by
men in 'domestic
circumstances', then the number of male deaths increases to about 70.
In other words, this is a number that is not very far removed from the
105 women who are also killed.
Furthermore, we know that men very often inflict serious injuries and
death on to other men at the behest of women.
we saw one young man killed recently by a woman's
boyfriend after she had lied and falsely accused him of touching her
breast in a nightclub.
For example, in the past two months or so, here in the UK, we have seen
one young lady indicted for leading her new boyfriend into a trap set up
by her old boyfriend - wherein he was battered to death - we have seen
both a man and a woman charged and convicted as a result of the woman
goading the man into attacking a stranger (who was killed) because, apparently,
he had jumped the queue in the supermarket - and we saw one young man
killed recently by a woman's boyfriend after she had lied and falsely
accused him of touching her breast in a nightclub.
So, what we see going on here is men being killed as a result of
women's accusations and behaviours.
Now, the important point to grasp from these instances is not so much
that the women, themselves, are actually guilty of murder, but that,
clearly, they are very often the instigators of serious violence and
murder, and that, as such, this is also very likely to be the case in
for the moment, let us exonerate these women completely. Let us say that
they are not responsible for the murders that they provoke.
But this does not alter the fact that the innocent dead men were,
victims of violence.
Those men were victims.
As such, when women provoke men into killing their partners, even if
they, themselves, cannot be held directly accountable for the murders, it
should, nevertheless, be the case that such murders are counted as deaths
occurring as a result of 'domestic violence'. And this should hold true
even if the murderers, themselves, were unrelated to their victims.
Needless to say, however, such murders are not categorised in such a
For example, if a woman goads a male friend into beating up her boyfriend
for some reason or other, and he murders him, then, because he is
'unrelated' to the man that he has just killed, the incident is not categorised as
But, quite clearly, it should be.
And so, for example, an important question here is, "How often do men
get murdered because their partners have goaded other (unrelated) men into
women certainly do goad men into being violent towards
Well, I do not know the answer to this. But we do know that women
certainly do goad men into being violent towards other men and that, in some
cases, men are killed.
And so, for the sake of argument, let us just assume that out of the
400-500 men who are murdered every year in the UK, just 15 of them were
killed as a result of women (who were 'related' to them) goading the men
(who were not 'related' to them) into being violent towards them.
Then our figure for the number of dead men killed as a result of
'domestic violence' goes up to 85.
As such, the claim by women's groups that the number of female deaths
arising from domestic violence far exceeds the number of male deaths is
There is hardly any difference between them.
Furthermore, if one assumes that even a small percentage of the
thousands of suicides every year has something to do with having to deal
with intractable 'domestic problems', then the number of men who die as a
result of domestic problems soars well above the number of women who die
as a result of such circumstances.
For example, if we assume that just 5% of people commit suicide because
of domestic problems, then the number of male deaths goes up by an
extra 200, whereas the number of
female deaths goes up by only about 60.
As such, the claim by women's groups that women far more often than men
suffer death as a result of serious domestic circumstances turns out to be just another one of
their typical lies.
The likelihood is that the opposite is true.
Finally, I also often see MRAs admitting that when it comes to
bodily harm, it is true that women make up the majority of victims. (In
fact, I think that I used to say this myself.)
But this is clearly not the case.
Even when it comes to serious bodily injury
and death, as a result of 'domestic circumstances', men are
not less likely than women to be
The official figures are just cleverly carved up in such a manner so that this appears
to be the case.
As such, men most definitely need access to the same type of services
that are still mostly provided
only to women.
Wife ditched her husband on their wedding night... 'then called him the
next morning to help beat her lover to death'
Will the above case count as a 'domestic violence' homicide?
Unprecedented Domestic Violence Study Affirms Need to Recognize Male
Victims The most comprehensive review of the scholarly domestic
violence research literature ever conducted concludes, among other things,
that women perpetrate physical and emotional abuse, and engage in control
behaviors, at comparable rates to men. May 2013