Delay Delay Delay
When it comes to adults engaging in 'consensual' sexual activities with
young children they are most certainly abusing those children, but NOT because
such children will later be traumatised psychologically by the 'consensual' events.
Children cannot possibly consent to the long-term effects that sex can have on
them. They can certainly give legitimate consent with regard to how they feel
about what is actually happening to them at the time, or to what they, themselves, wish
or wish not to be doing, but they cannot possibly give any legitimate consent to
the effects that lie beyond their current experience; for they can have no real
understanding of the pathways through which their sexual events, psychological or
otherwise, might lead them
in the future. This is difficult enough for adults in their twenties to
understand, and for children it is plainly impossible.
Children are also not aware of how their sexuality can be guided down particular
pathways based on the experiences that they have. And, further, they cannot appreciate (and,
therefore, avoid) fully the many serious problems and pitfalls that they are
likely to encounter by being seduced into being sexually active at an early age.
They are also nowhere near developing sufficient understanding of how highly
intimate experiences can have lasting emotional and cognitive consequences for them - good or bad.
And, in all the above respects, 'consensual' sex could hardly be more influencing
- given that welcome physical intimacy self-evidently opens very wide the doors that lead deep into
the psyches of those who engage in it.
Further, of course, certain forms of sexual activity can lead to diseases being
transmitted, and while it is quite one thing for adults to take the risks of getting
them in order to gain pleasure from physical intimacies, it is quite another to impose these risks
upon children. And the fact that adults
can never really know whether or not they are carrying any such diseases - and
these include some very serious ones - makes any actions which might inflict such
diseases upon children as negligent with regard to the children's welfare as would
be the case if a doctor knowingly risked using unsterilised needles upon them.
Well, the evidence seems to show that there are millions of adults who do not
bear any scars from having indulged in consensual sexual antics at an early age,
but there are also many millions who do!
And so, for example again, in much the same way that drinking and driving
proscriptions are clearly important for the safety of people even though
accidents mostly do NOT arise when journeys are undertaken by drivers who have
been drinking, so it is that proscriptions in the sexual arena when it comes to
children are necessary in order to protect a significant number of them from
crashing into walls!
In summary, children cannot possibly consent to any risks or consequences
of sexual intimacies (many of which
reach into the long term) given that they can have no realistic notions about
them. In this respect, they are equivalent to being passengers enticed into
cars driven by adult drivers who have drunk too much.
Nothing bad might happen, but it might! And the
high increase of risk entailed in the childhood
sexual arena is significant enough to warrant the proscription of activities therein.
Children cannot read nor understand all the small print that goes along with
And there's quite a lot of it!
Also, of course, from society's point of view, and statistically speaking,
sexualised children are also going to end up causing an enormous number of
problems (disease, teenage pregnancies, abortions, child prostitution,
criminality, drugs, loss of education etc).
Indeed, one of the best pieces of advice that one can give to parents
regarding their children is to delay, delay, delay. Delay for as long as
possible all those things that might more readily lead to
unhappiness; the child's first sexual exploit, their first cigarette, their first
ecstasy tablet, the first time that they play truant from school, the first time
have a boyfriend, the first time that they fail to do their homework, their first
trip to the nightclub. And so on.
Delay is the best in such areas, so that these growing beings have as much
experience, understanding and resilience (mental and physical) as possible, before engaging in
activities that might lead to serious and/or long-term negative consequences.
So, in summary, there are very many seriously negative aspects to children engaging in
'consensual' sexual activities.
But psychological trauma is not one of them.
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