Yes, of course we do.
But it is too big.
The organism has become a monster, and it is feeding off the broken lives
that it, itself, is creating. The abuse industry needs to be cut down to size so that it only has the
wherewithal to deal with serious cases of abuse. As with most things in life, it is all a question of balance!
And the laws and the various definitions also need adjustment so that
innocent people - and also those who have not done anything seriously bad - are
not dragged through such a horrible mill.
Once again, it is all a question of balance.
'Men' should also not permit the abuse industry to demonise them so horribly.
Women, gays, blacks, Muslims, Jews - whoever - would be outraged if they were
continually being portrayed in the manner (and with the frequency) which men
have to endure.
There would be permanent riots in the streets!
Unfortunately, however, while many
men have finally woken up to the way in which 'men' are continually being portrayed in
a bad light in, say, advertisements and sitcoms, they do not yet seem to have
cottoned on to the fact that the portrayal of 'men' by the abuse industry is far
more pervasive and far more damaging.
...
Two commercials seen in San Diego ... posted on SYG
#1: Man is having a pleasant conversation in an elevator with a woman. The
elevator door opens and he leaves, walking his child out with him. The back of
his shirt has written on it in bold letters, "Child Abuser". The woman
in the elevator looks dumbfounded as the man walks away. A voiceover says
something like, "If only child abuse were this easy to spot."
#2: Man is walking his child out of school through a crowd of people. He
walks by a woman, who turns and looks back at him. Again, in bold lettering on
the back of his shirt is, "Child Abuser." Again, the voiceover,
"If only child abuse were this easy to spot."
...
Also posted on SYG ...
I was watching t.v last night and this commercial came on the air. I was
incensed!
It shows a little boy and he approaches and adult male and asks "Excuse
me. I'm a little confused about domestic violence, could you help me out."
The man gives him a perplexed look.
Then a voiceover says "Boys won't ask about domestic abuse. Teach them
that violence against women is wrong!"
...
Furthermore, we should not allow the abuse industry to damage victims of abuse
even further by injecting over and over again into their minds the thoroughly
debilitating and self-fulfilling notion that they are doomed to suffer for life.
Unless they have lost a limb, caught some crippling disease, suffered a
terrible shock, or experienced some excruciating pain - or something like that -
there is no intrinsic mechanism in normal humans that forces them to suffer long
term from short-term incidents of what is nowadays alleged to be 'abuse'; apart,
that is, from some mechanism that will respond in concordance with any continued
deluge of convincing propaganda that tells them that they are doomed forever to
suffer.
Such propaganda instills considerable fear, anxiety and depression in the
very people whom those in the abuse industry would claim they are so concerned
about.
Of course, victims of abuse - children or adults - might be horrendously damaged by their
various ordeals, but when those in the abuse industry make blanket pronouncements suggesting that
all cases of 'abuse' lead inevitably to significant permanent psychological harm, then they are talking absolute nonsense and damaging
the most vulnerable victims in the process.
Most sexual abuse, for example, is probably a bit like having a car accident of some sort.
It might cause long term permanent damage - e.g. a major road crash - or virtually nothing at all - e.g. a minor scratch on the hood.
Most acts of 'abuse' as currently defined are, like most car accidents, relatively trivial. It is the abuse industry that always tries to make matters sound far worse in order to gain extra
funding - and also in order to demonise men.
And, in doing this, not only does it damage people's relationships, it causes significant harm to victims of
both serious and trivial 'abuse'.
The long term negative effects of abuse - or indeed of any psychological 'unpleasantness' - can probably be summarised thus ...
Long Term Harm = Total Duration of Negative Experiences x Degree of Unpleasantness of Negative Experiences
But, you can add two further factors to the equation, both of which are concerned with the recalling and the cognitive reprocessing of past experiences and both of which are mightily fuelled by the
abuse industry ...
Long Term Harm = Total Duration x Degree of Unpleasantness (i.e. as per above) + Total Duration of
Recalling Negative Experiences x Degree of Unpleasantness During Recall of Negative Experiences
Or, to put it simply, ...
Long Term Suffering = Total Unpleasantness of Experiences + Total Unpleasantness of
Recalling those Experiences
And these days, thanks to the abuse industry, the latter
variable (the recall of unpleasant experiences) produces umpteen
times more misery for the victims of abuse than did the experiences themselves!
And that's not even to mention the 'reinterpretation' of what actually
happened coupled with the added fear of what it might all mean for the
future.
In other words, more Maths!
Long Term Suffering = Total Unpleasantness of Experiences + Total Unpleasantness of
Recalling those Experiences + Reinterpretation of those
Experiences + Fear of the Consequences of those Experiences.
And the bits in yellow are those things that are purposely inflamed by the abuse
industry on a daily basis.
As such, they weigh far more heavily than the original incidents themselves.
But, unfortunately, for victims of abuse, the matter does not actually stop there.
There are other factors that come into play thanks to the various shenanigans of the abuse industry. For example, tricking abuse victims into believing that they have been psychologically damaged for life by their experiences causes them further significant harm
above and beyond that which is directly associated with their abuse (e.g.
they might take up smoking, drink a great deal, lose sleep because of worry about the future,
blame their parents etc etc) and it also imbues them with a sense of hopelessness with regard to dealing with any other problems that they might have, whether or not these problems, in reality, have anything to do with their past
abuse - e.g. I am depressed/useless because I was once abused; and, as such, there is
nothing that I can do. I am doomed to suffer from the past.
And this is just one reason why, for example, I will continue to claim that the National
Society For The Prevention Of Cruelty To Children has harmed, hurt and damaged
far more children in this country than have all the paedophiles put
together.
Indeed, I can think of hardly anything that is more disgusting than watching
the NSPCC damage the entire well-being of children who have been abused
by persistently telling them that their 'lives are ruined' - or words to that
effect. It is absolutely outrageous that they should be allowed to get away with
doing this.
They don't care about these children at all. They just want people's money.
And they are quite prepared to seriously damage the well-being of children -
even of abused children - in order to get their hands on this money.
What kind of people would do this?
Greedy, malicious, uncaring, nasty, and totally self-serving are adjectives
that come to my mind.
Some time ago, I was in the company of a child with a missing limb. As I was looking at her,
I found myself reflecting on what it would mean for her if she was going to be brought up in a society wherein highfaluting so-called child 'experts'
and grand police officers kept appearing in the media to tell her that her life was going to be
permanently damaged and ruined
significantly because of her handicap.
Your life is ruined Young Lady.
You are damaged for life.
Your life is ruined Young Lady.
You are damaged for life.
Your life is ruined Young Lady.
You are damaged for life.
And these people claim that they care about children!
Bullsh#t!
Take it from me, they don't.
If that was my daughter in the above photograph and some child 'experts' kept
telling her that her life was going to be ruined as a result of her disability,
I'd shoot them!
As I've said soooo many times before. The abuse industry - this 'organism' -
does not care about children. It does not care about
people. It does not care about victims of abuse. It does not care
about society.
It only cares (altogether now!) about itself!
And why is this so? - I hear some unfamiliar voices ask.
Well, the reason that this is so, is, largely, because ...
... This abuse industry.
... This
... 'organism'!
... is ...
.... NOT ....
!!!!!HUMAN!!!!!
And it has a LIFE of its own!
As such, it forever pursues its own ends!
Regardless of the consequences to humans.
Even the 'organism' of women's groups would rather see more women killed every
year than risk some fraction of their current funding ... e.g. see Only Women Are Offered An Alternative To Domestic Violence
Best wishes
Harry
