Why Do Women Fantasise About Rape?
Why do women fantasise about rape?
Or, more accurately, why do so many women fantasise about rape?
More bluntly: Why is it that the thought of being raped turns on
millions of women?
Well, no doubt, the answer to this question is quite complicated, and
it is probably different for different women. But, in my opinion, there
are some fundamental factors that predispose millions of women to be
sexually excited by the thought of being raped.
This does not necessarily mean that they would like to be raped in
reality but, perhaps, that they would like to like being raped in reality
- if you get my drift.
After all, I would like to win the lottery, despite the fact that I am
well aware that lottery winners very often end up being miserable.
But, of course, in my fantasy world, winning the lottery always brings
me nothing but joy.
And this is what I would like to happen if I won the lottery. I would
like it to be a good experience.
Similarly, women who are excited by the idea of being raped would like
a rape to be a good experience.
all the bad bits can disappear
In our fantasy world, however, all the bad bits can disappear.
And so we can often head in a direction that seems like a good idea
until we actually get there.
And, in my view, this is one of the main reasons that there are,
nowadays, so many women making false allegations of rape - e.g. see
Understanding the Rape Statistics; a short YouTube video
These women head in a direction that is consistent with their rape fantasies,
but then discover that the outcome is not quite as pleasurable as they thought
it would be.
You see this sort of thing happening when younger women choose to
engage intimately with stridently aggressive males (often sporty types)
whom they do not really know, and their experiences turn out to be
disappointing or decidedly unpleasant.
Most women who experience such things are intelligent enough to
recognise that their forays into the world of impersonal aggressive sex which they
then regret was a mistake of their own making.
many women these days are unwilling to take
But many women these days are unwilling to take responsibility for
their own behaviours - especially if their minds have been poisoned with
In these cases, they will likely feel as if they have been 'abused'
through no fault of their own,
and some of them will want to seek revenge - which they will
do by making false allegations of rape.
Nevertheless, for a large percentage of women, being raped - by a
particular person in a particular context - is exciting not only in their
fantasy world, but also in reality.
In other words, pleasure can often be derived from having one's initial
resistance firmly overcome by someone who is desirable.
Devious feminists and their pitiful poodle boys, however, often try to deny that
millions of women fantasise about rape - and, indeed, about many other
things wherein women see themselves as being helpless and at the mercy of
men - and this, in my view, is for the following main reasons.
1. Women feminists, basically, hate men. And they will always attempt
to demonise them. They are no different from all those Nazis who hated
Jews; e.g. see Feminism and Nazism.
Indeed, it is not really possible these days for women to be feminists
unless they hate men.
(Of course, many women think that they are feminists because they
believe in 'equality' between the genders, but a belief in equality
between the genders is not what feminism is about; e.g. see
Equality Between Men and Women
Is Not Achievable.)
heterosexual women have very little idea about the
sexuality of other women
2. Normal heterosexual women - feminist or not - have very little idea
about the sexuality of other women. How could they know about it? - given
that they will have almost no sexual experiences with other women.
Clearly, they will know about their own deep-seated desires, but they
will not know about those intimate desires that other women have.
And, of course, the sexual experiences of lesbian women will mostly be
with women who are, themselves, not normal heterosexual women. So they,
too, will know very little about the desires of normal heterosexual women.
Furthermore, of course, lesbian women can never be men when they are
having sex with other women, and so the women with whom they have sex will
not be responding to them as they would to men.
And so, whichever way you look at it, you end up having to conclude
that the most expert beings on the planet when it comes to women's desires
as they pertain to men are, in fact, men - not women.
And the most expert of these men will have had many sexual encounters
with many women.
And if you were to ask these experienced men whether or not it appears
to be the case that many women like the idea of being raped, they will
nearly always tell you that they do.
Heterosexual women themselves will, generally speaking, fall into two
Those who do like the idea of a rape (in certain circumstances)
and those who do not.
The latter will, clearly, deny that women like the idea of being raped - making
this judgement on the basis of their own desires - but the former will
also tend to deny it; quite simply, because it is too embarrassing to
state otherwise and/or because they dare not state otherwise in this
politically-corrected climate that we all currently have to endure.
if you want to know the truth about women's fantasies,
ask the men who sleep with them.
In short, if you want to know the truth about women's fantasies, ask
the men who sleep with them.
3. Loosely speaking, 'feminist' men mostly fall into five categories.
a. Men who claim to be 'feminist' simply because to do otherwise would
not be politically or socially acceptable given their positions in life.
b. Unattractive men who have little or no experience of women. They
often naively believe that openly supporting feminism will change their
c. Men who claim to be feminist simply in order to ingratiate
themselves to women in the hope of getting their hands on more of them -
e.g. university professors who would like to have more sexual encounters
but who are terrified of being seen as predatory males.
d. Inexperienced men who are clueless when it comes to women and who have been successfully indoctrinated with deceitful misandric feminist propaganda.
e. Effeminate (heterosexual) men who simply - and genuinely - do not
view women in the same way that other men do, and who cannot understand how
these other men, and the women who like them, might view each other.
For example, an effeminate man - even if sexually experienced - is
unlikely ever to attract the attentions of a woman who likes the idea of
being raped. As such, he gets no experience with such women.
And I should point out that I do not use the word 'effeminate' in a
My own view is that maleness and femaleness derive from various
characteristics that can be represented on a gender continuum.
Effeminate heterosexual men are, loosely speaking, those men whose
characteristics are mostly found on the female side.
And there's nothing wrong with that!
All in all, therefore, there are many groups of people who will hotly
deny that millions of women like the idea of being raped, but you can
happily discount what they say - mostly on the grounds that they cannot
possibly know what they are talking
To repeat myself; the only real experts on the sexual desires of
heterosexual women are those men who have had many intimate experiences
Everyone else is talking through their hats.
Furthermore, it will be those men whom women perceive to be dominant
who will attract women who fantasise about being raped.
Indeed, such men are likely to attract many more women than are those
men who are not perceived by women to be dominant.
In my piece entitled Women and Chimps, I
outlined the evolutionary forces that have shaped the sexuality of human
males and females.
In a nutshell, the outcome from evolution has been that human males
like to have sex with females who appear to be vulnerable and
non-threatening, whereas human females are mostly turned on by dominant
males who can overpower them.
Quite simply, the genes of hominids and humans that have produced these
characteristics have outgunned, outlasted and out-populated those genes
that did not produce them.
Which is one of the main reasons why women seem to be sexually
attracted more to the Bad Guys than to the Nice Guys.
Bad Guys are dominant. They are strong enough to defy convention.
Nice Guys are conformists. They do what they are told to do.
Nice Guys are conformists. They do what they are told to do.
But, in this piece, I really want readers to focus their attention on the
sexual pathways that people traverse as they move on through life.
And the first thing to point out is that females from an early age
begin to recognise that they are valued by many males on the basis of their
looks and on the femininity of their behaviours.
Furthermore, it is their lot in life to be relatively passive in the
processes involved with courtship and flirtation. This is to say that
their role is to attract males, rather than to pursue them.
As such, females spend an enormous amount of their time, energy and money
on making themselves attractive to males.
And it is from this situation that their sexual fantasies often drift
in the direction of a desire to be raped.
They want men to have a passionate sexual interest in
Thus, to begin with, their sexuality is aroused by men taking a sexual
interest in them. And then, as time passes, this is not enough. They want
men to have a passionate sexual interest in them. But then, this is also
not enough. They want men to be so overcome with desire for them that they
lose control and, perhaps, rape them - or to do something else that is consistent
with the view that the men are positively ravenous for them.
In other words, the sexual pathway goes from being, "He has a sexual
interest in me," to, "He just cannot resist me sexually."
Which, of course, would give her huge power over him.
Indeed, most men - certainly older men - can also recognise just how
pleasurable it would be to have women so deranged with desire for them
that they just cannot contain themselves.
In other words, how wonderfully sexual for a heterosexual man would be the experience of having
a woman whom he desired be so attracted to his body that she persistently wanted to
ravage him in a sexual manner.
So, this fantasy can also be found in men.
However, the differences between the sexes (once again as outlined in
Women and Chimps) somewhat militates
against men engaging in such a fantasy.
For example, being sexually ravaged by a woman is not likely to be
consistent with a man's desire to be active and dominant. It doesn't quite
fit in with his evolved predilections.
For a woman, however, being sexually ravaged by a man fits in perfectly
with her evolved predilections.
And one good way to be sexually ravaged by a man is to be raped by him.
Nevertheless, if you look closely at the BDSM aficionados, many of you might be
surprised to discover that the people in control of their various antics
are almost invariably the ones who, on the surface, appear to have the
How is this so?
Well, quite simply, if those who are being submissive in these
situations do not like what is being done to them, then they are unlikely
to participate again.
And the same appears to be true in general when it comes to men and
women who engage intimately with each other on the basis of him being
dominant and she being submissive.
In other words, she might look submissive, and she might be submissive,
but, in fact, she has a huge amount of power over him.
The power to deny.
Even in the world of chimpanzees this often appears to be the case.
For example, big brutish alpha males that could smash the bones of a
female's face with just one blow very rarely attack their females even
when they steadfastly resist their amorous advances. On the contrary, they
have been known to sneak off to get them a present of some sort in the
hope that they will change their minds.
A bit like a man who buys his woman flowers.
Let me put it this way, instead of writing another twenty
When it comes to human sexual relationships, this thing here ....
... has more power than does this thing here ...
And as she gains more experience in life, she begins to realise this.
In summary, both sexes are much aroused by the notion that the persons
whom they desire are insanely desirous of them.
In the case of women, who are passive, this insane desire is, in their
minds, often manifested by a man who is so desirous of a woman that he cannot, or will not, contain himself.
In the case of men, who are active, this insane desire is, in their
minds, often manifested by a woman who is so desirous of a man that he can do
whatever he pleases with her.
And when matters are going well, he has the power to satisfy her
deep-seated sexual desire to be submissive to a dominant male. She has the
power to satisfy his deep-seated sexual desire to be dominant over a
And so, in both cases, power has something to do with it - for, in both
cases, the person having the fantasy is also able, in their fantasy, to exert
huge power over the person whom they hotly desire - essentially, through
their ability to provide them with something that they really, really like
as a result of their sexual natures.
Indeed, the desire to exert some strong degree of control over those
whom we deeply care about is not - as emotionally-retarded feminists are
wont to proclaim - an indication of some kind of Machiavellian pathology,
but is, in fact, an indication of just how desperate we are not to lose
For example, the more that you want to be close to someone, the more
that you wish to restrict any activities of theirs that might take them
further away from you.
Throw in a huge dose of passionate involvement into this equation together
with a large dollop of sexual desire and the outcome is often a great
deal of emotional heat!
But an important point to keep noting is that, in the case of both
desire is usually to please, not to harm.
And this is mostly true even when the parties engage in thoughts or
acts that involve some kind of pain or humiliation. Hurt and helplessness
but not harm - is often very appealing to those who are passionately
immersed in each other.
sex without some kind of psychological enrichment and
confabulation would be a pretty rum affair
Indeed, sex without some kind of psychological enrichment and
confabulation would be a pretty rum affair - and quite revolting in many
ways; e.g. unwelcome gunge, horrible smells, stickiness, soreness, sweat, bacteria,
possibility of disease, infection and unwanted pregnancies.
And so fantasy has quite an important role to play in all cases of
But specific fantasies and desires come and go.
They appear and disappear at different times in people's lives. They
depend on the current circumstances. They depend on the current mood. And
they depend on the current objects of desire.
But the notion that millions of women have, at some times in their
lives, erotic fantasies
about being raped is very decidedly true.
And when feeling sexual at these times, many of these women will attempt to engineer
circumstances in such a manner that invites or entices rape - or, much
more often perhaps, some kind of persuasive sexual encroachment.
With men whom they know well enough, this is usually fun and
But with men whom they do not know well enough, they might still hope
for fun and games, but it might not turn out to be so - because they will
not understand each other well enough to make all the right moves, and their
comprehension of the situation will not likely be the same.
And if either party is not on full alert - perhaps drunk, tired, imbued
with sexual desire - or maybe just naive, it can all go horribly wrong.
Finally, there is the intriguing conundrum to do with the fact that if
a woman desires to be raped then how, exactly, can she be raped?
In other words, how can she be penetrated against her will when, in
fact, she wills it?
And the answer to this question clearly derives from the fact that when
it comes to fantasies, almost anything goes.
You can make it all up as you go along.
Logical consistency, an adherence to reality and a true understanding
of other people's motives and desires are not required in order to
make a fantasy do its work.
Indeed, it seems to me that this is also true for most people even when
it comes to many other things.
Thus, and for example, it seems to me that logical consistency, an
adherence to reality and a true understanding of other people's motives
and desires are not really required even when it comes to what people believe.
It is the story - i.e. the fantasy - that seems to count the most.